Aub-Support Your Intense Gifted/2e Kid

Support your
Intense gifted/2e kid

A highly interactive two-month program that helps you understand & support your bright, strong-willed kid or
teen so you can reduce conflict & feel more confident.

perhaps some
of these sound familiar...

You know your kid or teen is awesome. They’re smart, funny, creative, and caring. But they also have big, intense feelings that overwhelm them.

Your kid seems more passionate than their peers - they’re the one who storms out of the room when corrected or bursts into tears when something doesn’t go their way.

Your kid loves to learn, but they hate the feeling of not knowing something. If learning feels too hard or they make a mistake, they may cry, rip up their work, or need a break from the activity.

Your kid is hard on themselves - really hard. Even though they’re bright and talented, they call themselves stupid, say they’re the worst in the world, say they hate themselves, or wonder why they’re so different from their peers.

Once your kid is having a big feeling,

it’s hard to help them out of it. You’ve tried reassuring them, reasoning with them, talking them through it, being understanding - nothing seems to help.

You’re worried your child’s perfectionism will erode their love

of learning and that their big

feelings will drive away friends.

You’ve read a lot of parenting books and tried to implement the strategies, but your kid seems to run on a different operating system - nothing you’ve tried has been quite right.

Sometimes you worry you’re too lenient with your child and they’ll never learn to function in the “real world.” But other times you worry you’re too strict or that your child is developing some shame about their big feelings.

it's not your fault that life feels extra tough...

Parents of intense gifted/2e kid and teens

often blame themselves - they assume they've been doing parenting strategies "wrong" and

that's why life is so hard. They assume they

haven't been consistent enough, calm enough,

or disciplined enough.

I want you to know you haven't been doing standard parenting strategies the wrong way.

You don't need to be more consistent with

all the advice you've heard.

You need permission and practical skills to do things differently - in a way that actually aligns

with your kid’s brain and that actually works

and feels good for everyone in the family.

IT'S THE ADVICE THAT'S BEEN WRONG, NOT YOU OR YOUR KID.

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YOU ALSO DESERVE...

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Gifted/2e Parent Experiences:

how it works

Support Your Intense Gifted/2e Kid is a highly-interactive two-month group coaching experience with online learning modules, live group meetings, unlimited asynchronous coaching, a supportive community, & Deep Dive resources.

Read below to learn more about what's included & how the program works.

10 online modules - with bite-sized videos, interactive handouts, & bonus resources - to help you learn key gifted/2e parenting concepts & strategies in an accessible way, on your own time.

THE MODULES

Each modules contains videos, slides, & bonus resources.

UNDERSTAND YOUR KID’S BRAIN &
HOW TO BE THE PARENT THEY NEED

BELONGING & FINDING FRIENDS
WHEN YOU’RE NOT LIKE OTHER KIDS

RESPOND TO BIG FEELINGS

AND INTENSE MOMENTS

RESILIENCE FOR KIDS
WHO HATE MISTAKES

STOP NEGOTIATING,

START COLLABORATING

SELF-CARE FOR

EXHAUSTED PARENTS

PERMISSION TO NOT FOLLOW STANDARD PARENTING ADVICE (IT WON’T WORK ANYWAY)

SCREEN TIME AS A TOOL

SCHOOL & LEARNING SOLUTIONS FOR GIFTED/2E STUDENTS

10.

SUPPORT SIBLINGS WITH DIFFERENT NEEDS (EVEN WHEN THEY’RE FIGHTING)

Plus lifetime access to the online modules so you can revisit the videos, handouts, and resources as much as you want.

GET AN INSIDE LOOK AT THE ONLINE MODULES IN THE VIDEO BELOW.

Highly interactive weekly meetings where you make a super practical plan to try new strategies at home - so you know exactly what to say and do by the end of the call.

In the first half of our weekly Learning Lab meeting, you'll make a plan to try new strategies at home. Each kid and family situation is unique, so I'll help you adapt and customize each strategy to your specific kid(s) and family dynamics.

The second half of our weekly meeting is an open Question & Answer session. This is your opportunity to get help with literally anything that stresses, confuses, or worries you - anything from, "My kid melted down last night and I'm not sure why" to "My kid always asks to eat right before bed time - what should I do?"

Unlimited coaching feedback throughout the program so you can get the answers you need as questions or tricky situations arise.

It's natural for questions to arise any time we try a new parenting technique - that's why the program includes unlimited asynchronous coaching so you can get answers to all your questions and conundrums.

Because parenting is a 24/7 job, you can submit questions at any time of day. I answer questions with recorded coaching videos at least two times per week and share all videos with the group, so you can also learn from others' questions. Your feedback gets more personalized as I know you and your family better.

Between meetings, you'll try, observe, and iterate new strategies at home, with my help - until they really work for your intense gifted/2e kid(s) or teen(s) and for you.

Every week, you'll leave the Learning Lab meeting with a concrete plan to try new strategies at home - so you can start seeing changes right away, without lots of extra effort or homework!

Your real-life practice is the heart of the program, where you see for yourself how the strategies from the Less Conflict, More Confidence framework resonate with your kid and make your home life more peaceful. We'll share wins every week to help you notice the small shifts towards more ease, less worry, fewer arguments, and more flexibility.

Connect with other parents of intense gifted/2e kids and teens in a small, supportive cohort.

Parenting a gifted/2e kid or teen is often lonely, and many parents say that Support Your Intense Gifted/2e Kid is the first time they've connected with other families with similar intense lives.

It's hard to find other parents who understand the joys and exasperations of raising a bright, strong-willed, emotionally intense kid. For many parents in the program, it's the first time they've felt like they can talk openly about everything from their child's incredible talents and funny comments to aggressive outbursts and resistance to personal hygiene.

the program also includes

REVIEW OF
YOUR CHILD'S ASSESSMENT FROM
A GIFTED/2E LENS

REVIEW OF YOUR
CHILD'S IEP,
504 PLAN OR
ACCOMMODATION PLAN

HELP PREPARING
FOR SCHOOL COMMUNICATION
& ADVOCACY

TEMPLATES
TO MAKE ADVOCACY EASIER

If your child or teen
has completed an assessment, I use my expertise in psychological assessment and gifted/2e characteristics to interpret the report through a gifted/2e lens, provide a second opinion, tailor my coaching recommendations, prioritize next steps, or answer your questions about the results and recommendations.

If your child receives informal supports at school or if they have a 504 plan or an IEP, I can use my school psychology training and teaching experience to review these plans and help you request what's best for your child. If you're just starting the school evaluation or support process, I help with that too!

If you'd like your child to receive more support, more intellectual challenge, and/or more compassion at school, I can help you understand what's reasonable to ask for and how to approach a collaborative relationship with their school. I don't communicate with the school directly, but I help you prepare and feel more confident.

Access a growing library of templates you can copy, paste, and adapt
for your own kid and family, created by Dr. Danika and parent alumni of the program. For example - a one-page overview to share with school, a letter asking for accommodations at the dentist or doctor, a menu for a selective eater, a table of 2e characteristics to give an assessment provider, and more.

WHAT YOU WILL LEARN THROUTH THE LESS CONFLICT, MORE CONFIDENCE PARENTING FRAMEWORK

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UNDERSTAND YOUR KID’S BRAIN

& HOW TO BE THE PARENT THEY NEED

MODULE 1

If you’re not sure why your gifted/2e kid or teen goes from 0 to 100 about seemingly small setbacks, avoids hygiene tasks, or argues with you each time you make a request - this is the week when you finally get a clearer picture about what's hard and why. You'll also learn which standard parenting techniques are a terrible fit for your kid's particular brain, and which parenting approaches to focus on during our work together.

RESPOND TO BIG EMOTIONS AND INTENSE MOMENTS

MODULE 2

In this module, you'll learn VIEW, my 3-step process that helps you respond to big emotions in a way that actually defuses tension, reduces conflict, and helps you connect with your upset, overwhelmed, or emotionally stuck kid or teen - instead of feeling like enemies or ending the interaction with tears or slammed doors.

Parents consistently tell me that the VIEW strategy creates so much more peace in their home. Some kids who have consistently yelled, "I hate you!" start to blurt out "I love you!" after their parent responds in a new way using VIEW. (I know that sounds corny or exaggerated, but more than one parent has reported this exact shift!)

STOP NEGOTIATING, START COLLABORATING

MODULE 3

Intense gifted/2e kids are naturally skilled negotiators. They’re wired to

notice holes in your reasoning, generate solutions to your objections, and argue eloquently against your requests. This means they often negotiate and debate - whether they've been asked to do something as simple as get in the car or as challenging as turn off their iPad.

In this module, you'll learn how you can transform a stressful negotiation into a productive collaboration with your kid or teen - and believe it or not, your kid may actually be more motivated to get their shoes on, get out the door, or get in the shower - without the fighting.

PERMISSION TO NOT FOLLOW STANDARD PARENTING ADVICE (IT WON’T WORK ANYWAY)

MODULE 4

You know standard parenting advice doesn't work with your kid(s) - you've experienced that first-hand - but you may not be sure what could work or what other options exist.

By the end of this module, you'll find permission to adapt everything from your mealtime setup to your kid's bedtime rituals so you can do things your own way, not the standard way - and you'll have my support to find a unique, customized approach that brings more cooperation and calm to family tasks and activities that have felt exhausting when you tried to do them the "standard" way.

SCHOOL & LEARNING SOLUTIONS FOR GIFTED/2E STUDENTS

MODULE 5

A lot of parents of gifted/2e kids find themselves in the role of

school advocate or school liaison because schools aren't designed for kids like theirs. In this module, you'll learn common educational “fit” problems for gifted/2e students and a ton of potential solutions,

such as accommodations, acceleration, assistive technology,

504 or IEP plans, and more.

For families who are homeschooling, unschooling, or deschooling,

this module will help you understand your learner's strengths and

needs more deeply so you can join them in their learning journey

and feel confident along the way.

BELONGING & FINDING FRIENDS WHEN YOU’RE DIFFERENT THAN OTHER KIDS

MODULE 6

Many intense gifted and twice-exceptional kids struggle to find "their people" or feel out of place in typical social situations. In this module, you'll learn how to recognize, honor, and celebrate your child's gifted/2e social strengths and social preferences to help them feel connected with others and find a sense of belonging. We'll also talk about how you can empower your kid to feel socially success in "the real world" without teaching them to mask and hide their needs or sacrificing their sense of self.

RESILIENCE FOR KIDS WHO HATE MISTAKES

MODULE 7

If your child gets overwhelmed by setbacks and disappointments, you’re not alone! The good news is that emotionally intense gifted/2e kids can be resilient even if they hate mistakes. In this module, you'll learn how to nurture your kid's natural resilience in a way that works *with* their brain, even if right now they shy away from any activities they can't easily master.

SELF-CARE FOR EXHAUSTED PARENTS

MODULE 8

Parenting an emotionally intense, sensitive gifted/2e kid can be exhausting. Some of these kids wake up ready to go at full speed - they have a head full of plans they want to enact, or they feel bored and want your help thinking of something to do. Perhaps your kid has an insatiable need for novelty and starts new projects seemingly every day. They don’t forget things, so you’ve learned to monitor what you say - if you ever mention or promise something, they’re bound to ask about it later.

Our kids' intensities are often a blast, a hoot, and a delight! And as

grown people with less energy, we often find it hard to keep up.

It's also exhausting parenting a kid who doesn't fit society's mold - because

none of the societal support systems are designed for your kid, and people frequently misunderstand them and what it's like to be their parent.

This module takes a realistic, supportive approach to self-care as an

exhausted parent - so you can find some ease, peace, and care for yourself

even when you're low on energy or can't get away for a day or weekend away.

SCREEN TIME AS A TOOL

MODULE 9

Our society often demonizes screen time, but many gifted/2e kids get a ton of benefit from from their screen time - often using screens to learn at their own pace, explore deep interests, calm down when they're upset, connect with peers, exercise a sense of control, decompress after tiring activities, or keep them company when their parents or caregivers need time to make dinner, take a meeting, or go to the bathroom!

This module will help you feel more confident using screen time as a tool in your family - no matter what type of limits, rules (or lack of rules) you feel comfortable trying at home. You'll learn practical strategies to de-stress common challenges so screen time works better for your kid, for you, and the whole family.

SUPPORTING SIBLINGS WITH DIFFERENT NEEDS (EVEN WHEN THEY’RE FIGHTING)

MODULE 10

Sibling conflict can be one of the most stressful aspects of parenting an intense gifted/2e kid. It’s painful to see one of your children hurt, threaten, or criticize your other child. And it can feel impossible to meet all your children's need when their needs conflict one another - or when they both want your full attention all the time.

This module will help you understand why your kids have such a tough time with one another, and you'll learn practical strategies to reduce conflict, meet diverging needs, and build a more peaceful family dynamic over time.

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Meet Dr. Danika Maddocks, your gifted/2e parent coach

HI! I'M

I help parents of intense gifted/2e kids let go of standard parenting advice - which doesn't help and actually makes things worse - and parent in a way that works with your kids' brain so you can both have less conflict and more calm.

I’ve sought out intense and sensitive gifted/2e kids and teens in every iteration of my career - as a teacher, therapist, assessment provider, school consultant, and now a parent coach.

I've conducted award-winning research on twice-exceptionality and I'm constantly learning new information and perspectives to understand and support gifted/2e kids, teens, and families.

As a former gifted/2e kid raising an intense gifted/2e kid of my own, I often understand these dynamics from the inside out and have an intuitive grasp of families’ joys and challenges.

I love gifted/2e kids' and teens' fierce integrity, creative thinking, and willingness to say what’s on their mind. I also love working with these kids’ parents, who often delight in their children and work double-time to support them despite the lack of tailored resources and relevant supports.

I know how difficult it can be raising (or being!) an intense or sensitive gifted/2e person - because most places in the world aren't designed for gifted/2e needs, interests, preferences, or natural way of doing things.

That's why I created The Gifted Learning Lab and Support Your Intense Gifted/2e Kid - to give more parents of gifted/2e kids the permission and the practical strategies to do life in your own unique way that actually works with your kids' bright, strong-willed brain - so the whole family can have less conflict and more calm.